The other day, we happened to sit behind another family with 7 children when we were out to eat. It was a buffet restaurant, so the children were up and down and I didn't really even notice the size of the other family until the mom asked me how many children I had. So I talked to her a little and she shared during the course of the conversation how many people (family and other wise) that have negative to her about the size of their family even to the point of reducing her to tears. This I too have had a lot of experience with. Whether it has been complete strangers, family, or members of my church, I have been faced with all kinds of harsh, rude, insensitive remarks from people about the size of our family. Comments ranging from "concern" over my health, ability to support a family, or how being in a large family will affect my other children to just plain rude comments like, "don't you know how to prevent that" or "don't you have a TV." Yeah. If there is a rude comment to be made about big families, I thought I had probably heard it. Then, I noticed that the Duggar Family has announced that they are expecting their 20th child (which by the way I think is wonderful!) Wow! The negative comments that I read absolutely blew me away! I cannot believe the things that people had to say about this family.
Has anyone noticed the things that have become acceptable in the world? No one seems to have such a big problem with teen age pregnancy. In fact, in McDonald's the other day, Chelsea (14) was holding Emelia (8 months) and keeping an eye on the other children playing while I went to order our food. A lady approached her and told her how beautiful her baby was and how brave she was to start so young. Really? Dead beat dads that don't support their children with their time or money do not raise such a strong reaction from people. We are murdering unborn babies every day and that seems to be fine with people. Divorce and infidelity do not even raise an eyebrow anymore.
What is it that is so wrong with a Christian family following God's will for their life to have a large family? When did children become a burden not a blessing? Genesis 1:28 says, " God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground." He still believes that children are a blessing. God has not changed, His word remains the same, " Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one's youth. How blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them; They will not be ashamed when they speak with their enemies in the gate." Ps 127:3-5 (NAS) Jesus said, "Jesus said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these." Matthew 19:14.
Large families are not dysfunctional, they function quite well, and no kids do not raise kids although they do have responsibilities within the family. Responsibility is not a bad thing by the way and yes they are all loved and get plenty of attention. Women are made to have babies , and although their are medical risks to everything, studies have shown that having and nursing babies are beneficial to your health (yes there are always exceptions to everything.) Financially, yes children cost money (everything does) but if a family chooses to have many children and are not asking anyone else to pay for them, why does it matter to anyone else? I can think of many other things people should be worried about than a Christian family choosing to give birth to children who will grow up and do God's work here on this earth and will further His kingdom.